Anal sex has been on its way to becoming “normal” in straight sex– anal sex with women, that is. It’s odd, though, that more and more men want to stick their dicks into women’s asses. Sure, girls can find anal sex pleasurable. Certainly, it’s an exciting switch-up once in a while. But really, if it makes sense for anybody to want to take it in the ass, it’s the guy.
Why? Well, men have the equivalent to the female g-spot, the prostate, which is accessed– you guessed it– through the bum. Men- relax, lube up your finger and stick it in, and about two inches in you’ll find a “chestnut-sized” bump. This is your magic spot. Play with it, and you’ll discover a whole new world of pleasure, and some of the most powerful orgasms of your life.
Now, considering the degree of pleasure the stimulation of such a simple spot can bring, it’s bizarre that men don’t use the backdoor more often. Well, there’s a variety of reasons why men are queasy about it.
For starters, there’s homophobia. The thinking runs: if gay men have anal sex, then if I have anal sex I’m a gay man. Well, following that logic there are a lot of straight women out there who are, in fact, gay men. Last I checked, the criteria for being gay had to do with sexual attraction to men, not an exclusive desire for anal stimulation. If you’re truly straight, anal-play isn’t going to suddenly make you want to have sex with men. And anyhow, what’s so awful about being gay? It’s the 21st Century. I think we’re beyond such pettiness.
Another fear is that of being submissive. However, if you are hell-bent on always being the dominant partner in bed, you can still enjoy anal stimulation without having your partner actually fuck you with a strap on. A well-lubed finger or butt plug are two other great ways to stimulate the prostate– or if you have a very generous and adventurous partner, tongues work amazingly as well. Also, some men find that thrusting isn’t very good stimulation anyways, and prefer a constant pressure. In this case, these methods are great.
The most understandable fear, in my opinion, is that of pain. The anus is a very delicate area. Prolific are horrifying tales of tears or the “pink sock” (if you don’t know what that is, I’m not going to explain it– you’re better off ignorant, trust me). But anal sex isn’t dangerous as long as you follow some cardinal rules, which I will discuss next week in my article The ABC’s of Anal Sex.
Certainly, anal sex can be a bit uncomfortable at first if you don’t relax and use lots of lube, but there’s nothing to be scared about. Besides, there’s no reason to jump straight into anal sex either. You started stimulating your dick with your hand long before you had sex, so you might as well begin that way with anal play too. Get to know that part of your body– because you’ll be shocked to discover the new realms of pleasure the prostate can open up for you.